Part 9: Parent-Teen Conflict Resolution: A Problem-Solving Guide for Parents and Teens

By Andy Anderson

To foster a stronger parent-teen bond and resolve conflicts constructively, a structured problem-solving approach is recommended. This collaborative model involves a series of steps that encourage open dialogue, mutual understanding, and successful resolution.

Step 1: Initiate a Meaningful Conversation

Select a comfortable and neutral environment for a focused discussion with your teen. Explain the purpose of the conversation and introduce the problem-solving model as a tool to address challenges together.

Step 2: Define the Problem

Clearly articulate the specific issue at hand. Both parents and teens should share their perspectives on the problem, ensuring that all parties feel heard and understood.

Step 3: Brainstorm Solutions

 Engage in a brainstorming session where all ideas, regardless of their unconventionality, are welcomed. Encourage creativity and avoid judgment during this phase. The goal is to generate various potential solutions that could address the issue.

Step 4: Evaluate Options

Carefully examine each proposed solution, considering its feasibility, practicality, and appeal. Parents and teens should assess each option independently and identify areas of agreement or compromise.

Step 5: Select and Implement a Solution

Collaboratively choose the most viable solution that addresses the concerns of both parties. Develop a detailed implementation plan, including roles, responsibilities, timelines, and a system for monitoring progress.

Step 6: Monitor and Evaluate

Regularly assess the effectiveness of the chosen solution. Discuss any challenges that arise and be willing to adapt the plan as needed. Encourage ongoing communication and collaboration throughout the process.

By adopting this structured problem-solving model, parents and teens can cultivate a more harmonious and supportive relationship. It equips them with essential tools to address conflicts effectively, fostering a stronger connection. 

For further guidance, you can access the following resources:

Click here to find a handout that can guide you and your teen through the six-step problem-solving process (Barkley & Robin, 2013b). 

Click here for help identifying issues that can be addressed through the six-step problem-solving model (Barkley & Robin, 2013b).

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References:

Barkley, R. A., & Robin, A. L. (2013b). Your defiant teen: 10 steps to resolve conflict and rebuild your relationship (pp. 247–274). Guilford Publications.

Important Note: The information in this blog series is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used as a substitute for professional advice from a qualified healthcare provider. If you suspect your child may have ODD or any other mental health condition, please consult with a mental health professional for diagnosis and treatment recommendations.

 

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